Fools in love

Sometimes, I think we are all fools in love. Do we really know what are we doing ? Do we know ourselves when we are in love ? Do we lose judgement ? Do you compromise our standards and morals ? I was listening to a song titled “ Fools in Love “. I was a fool in love. It was a danger to be in this situation. I lost my sense, myself, my direction, my reason and etc. I no longer want to be in that path. I give my heart and soul to the person I love. I do it for the person I love. I must say that person who I love is really lucky. But perhaps, I was the fool. I like the idea of love but I don’t like the feeling of falling in and maybe out of love and in the state of being in love anymore because that’s where danger lies and I turn to be a fool. Here I am reasoning how did I lose myself to love and falling in love. ( Are you in my reverie ? )  Sometimes, we don’t know ourself when we fall in love. We don’t have our thinking cap on. We have been blinded. A veil covering our eyes. We do not use wisdom. Sometimes, I relate falling in love is like the state of going shopping just because we feel like it but don’t know what to buy and end up going home with something we bought which we use and ends up getting cosy in the store room or somewhere in the wardrobe.(Does this sound familiar to you) It is the same thing too as eating when you are bored and going for groceries shopping without a list. There is a danger when falling in love with somehow. You end up losing yourself and maybe your identity. What is worse after parting in a relationship.You loose yourself. Being a fool in love, harms yourself and your partner. When you are a fool in love, you fool yourself and it leads you to fool your partner. After all the loving, sometimes it end up with a bitter parting which leads in 2 path. Remain as friends or as a stranger. I think those 2 path is hard enough. It is not fair to stay as strangers after being acquainted for such a time. But it’s not that wise to stay as friends either as they is a wall between 2 beings. I do not know any better solution. I am happy with the idea of marriage but sometimes, I asked myself, If I am happy and contented to myself, why do I need to someone to complete me. I do not need someone to complete me if I myself feel whole. Another reason is also because I got all the time to myself. I make all the decision. Sometimes, I think being attached in anyway regardless of being in relationship or marriage lies more problem. I have my own problem to think but there is twice or triple when I am attached. I truly understand why now my friend wants to go solo. I can enjoy the money that I make. Why would I not enjoy the things that I find pleasure from my own finance. Why would I allow somehow whom I am attached to enjoy my finances when I know the chances of parting, cheating and betraying is high in this society, generation and world that we are living in. I find more pleasure donating the money to the needy than be-questing an amount to my partner. When doing a life will, it’s always wiser to place your wealth to your children then to your partner because we will never know and neither can we predict what will happen. It isn’t hard for myself to imagine me as a Yuppie and etc. I feel complete and happy without a relationship. The way I perceived relationship is either you are asking for trouble, you are bring peer pressured or you are digging your way to the graveyard too soon. Sometimes relationship is just insatiable. Something that is impossible to satisfy. One partner will complain and the curtain lights up with voices throwing around and across the scene which sometimes ends up with tears. At times, it ingratiates to which we have to flatter them or please them when we just don’t want too. Perhaps, we should compromise. Till when do we have to compromise ? My sentiments of falling in love and in a relationship can be disorientated to other people’s view point. But this is how I see it. It will be months nay years for me to change my perception on love and being in love. I do not know if I will fall in love once more or perhaps I choose solo. Right now. I choose solo because I don’t want to be a fool in love. I want my consciousness to tell me when to be cautious when I am in a situation that is to be cautious using my consciousness to guide.

 

 

Wisdom

 I bought. I know if my dad is reading, his nerve to be angry on me will just happen any time. So, let me continue, I bought a book titled “ Wisdom by Andrew Zuckerman”. The book cost me $ 60. I did not really grumble despite of the price because I know there is going to be much wisdom is going to impart to me. Therefore, I purchased it. I have been reading the review of this book on the internet and daily chronicles. The price quote from other book sellers are $ 80. I showed it to my friend and she was screaming for she wanted to get it too. I told her it was $ 60. Her first reaction was “ Are you for real”. Indeed I showed her the receipt. I came back home reading. These are some of the extraction from the book which I am constantly renewed of wisdom and how it leads to a mature life.

So it’s a question of beginning to reinvent yourself the way your ancestors must have done thousand years ago, because they learned to rule themselves and organize themselves. We must learn about ourselves, about our past. If you’re grabbed by an art I think you should do whatever comes best to you. Whether it’s a novel or a play or a song. It doesn’t matter as much as the fact that you are doing something with the situation. No body can teach me who I am. You can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself. Every tradition has something another tradition can use. You haven’t found it. Or maybe you haven’t looked hard enough. The same way every culture has something to offer, if we are ready to look at it on its own terms and with a certain humility, we will find something we can use. I’ve got it and now that I’ve got it, I might as well use it. I will use whatever is useful to me.

Richard Adams

Before you start writing, you’ve got to have the whole story complete in your head. I think a good craftsman has to have the whole product complete in his head before he puts pen to paper.

Madeleine Albright

It is essential to care about human rights – that ultimately is the basis of our existence. The responsibility to protect does trump sovereignty. If a sovereign does not take care of his or her people, the international community has a responsibility to protect. People need to have respect for each other’s faith. Public service is the most rewarding kind of life you can have in terms of being able to give back what has been given to you by being a member of a society. As a woman, you have to remember who you are and not try to be a man, to understand that the various capabilities that women have, of multitasking and of being empathetic, will serve you very well in public service.

Being a parent is one most difficult and demanding and rewarding things that you can possibly be. You really are responsible for the day to day upbringing of your child and you have to do some sanctions and try to figure out when to reward. With grankids, you can just reward and it is a purely beautiful and pleasant relationship, and you don’t expect as much as you do from your children. It’s  just a perfect relationship.

Buzz Aldrin

Is it important to get somewhere in a big hurry, or is it better to take your time, one step at a time, and methodically reach the destination in a more efficient way ? Do we really live in harmony with a small group of people. It is very easy to say. “ Well, we’ll worry when the situation comes”. But that’s probably one of the more difficult things that we’ll have to face, rather than maybe radiation or bone deconditioning or whatever it is. It is how you get along with the people you’re supposed to be working with.To deal with shortcomings, to learn how to appropriately look for help, to help other people as they are helping you – it all works out in a very smooth way, where we’re not antagonizing other people.

Alan Arkin

Either you’re growing or you’re decaying. There is no middle ground. If you are standing still, you’re decaying.

Dick Bruna

If you put very few things on a page, you leave lots of room for the imagination.

Chuck Close

Far more interesting than problem solving is problem creation

Billy Connolly

Wisdom is the constant questioning of where you are and when you stop wanting to know, you’re dead. You’re walking but you’re dead.

Clint Eastwood

If a person is confident enough in the way they feel, whether it’s an art form or whether it’s just in life, it comes off – you don’t have anything to prove. You can just be what you are.

Gerald FitzGerald

Above all, avoid cynicism

Henry Kissinger

Don’t be too ambitious. Do the most important thing you can think of doing every year and then your career will take care of itself.

Nelson Mendela

A good heart and a good heart are always a formidable combination.

There are few misfortunes in this world that you cannot turn into a personal triumph if you have the iron will and the necessary skill.

It is what we make out of what we have, not what we are given, that separated one person from another.

Peace is the greatest weapon for development that any people can have

Wounds that can’t be seen are more painful than those that can be seen and cured by a doctor

I learned that to humiliate another person is to make him suffer an unnecessarily cruel fate

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. I felt fear myself more times than I can remember but I hid it behind a mask of boldness. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers fear.

Graham Nash

Life is not perfect. It will never be. You just have to make the best of it and you have to open your heart to what the world can show you. Sometimes it’s terrifying and sometimes it’s incredibly beautiful. And I’ll take both. Thanks.

Willie Nelson

Be here. Be present. Wherever you are, be there.

Mary Quant

Risk it, go for it. Life always gives you another chance, another go at it. It’s very important to take enormous risks.

Here, I am thinking of Joe. He has a knack of these phrases and books. Each sentences in this book has a deeper meaning and gives a different revelation each time I read.

Sorry !

I was listening to a song title “ Sorry”. Is sorry the cure to everything. To every nighmare, heart ache and etc.

Sorry is a powerful word. Whether used individually or collectively, it carries an emotional force that, in the best of circumstances, is life – changing. Yet when it comes to healing serious hurt or conflict, I am increasingly sure that saying sorry is rarely enough. An apology has its greatest power when someone unreservedly acknowledges the harm they have done to other people. Admitting “ I caused this” is difficult. It can take many people a long time and much backsliding to get to that point. Making excuses, looking for “ both sides of the story”, feeling miserable or resentful that you have been caught out, or self-pitying because your dignity and reputation now sullied are all quite different responses from recognizing and unconditionally regretting the damaging effects of your choices and actions on other people’s lives. A meaningful apology leaves excuses behind. It must arise from a willingness to take complete responsibility for your actions, but even that is not enough. It must also be based on a resolved not to cost much pain again. Fear of losing other’s people’s love and respect, relationships, panic: all of that is essentially self- focused. We don’t enter or move through life with equal gifts or insights. But “ reasons why” can also be periously distracting. The primary cause of behavior that hurts other people right now, in the present moment. Are they willing  to recognize their power to care about other people, whether or not they feel like it. They suffering they are causing others is less urgent for them than their own emotional needs and desires. Until they reverse that, and make their daily choices with far more active regard for other people, whatever sorrow they may feel for the pain they are causing will remain muted and ineffective. Waking up to our power to harm – or  uplift others is crutial in emotional maturity. This may be the theme. I write about most because it is so essential. It is the way out of self centeredness and, while challenging, is the only way to make saying sorry meaningful. What it adds up to is taking unconditionally responsibility for the effect of all our choices and actions on other people. This is nothing less than radical, yet it will change absolutely not just the wellbeing of those around us but also how we perceive, value and trust ourselves.

Written by : Stephanie Dorwick

Lost

“Have you found what you are looking for”, Someone asked me. I said No. I said. I don’t know if I know myself. She ask what happen, ” I said I don’t know “. Everything to me is just ” I don’t know “. I don’t know is like ABC”. I told her. I know its not me who is having this problem. I bet there are heaps of people in the street who don’t know what to do, what to become. That’s true. She replied. I told her ” I am no longer myself “. What I am on the streets is different to what I am at home. I turn very fragile and sensitive when I am at home. I throw my notebook when I am mad. It’s a situation that I cannot explain. She ask ” Does it scares you when you are no longer know yourself ? ” It scares the hell out of me. I said yes. All I know is that I want to hide myself from everything. You don’t know everything about me. I don’t want to explain myself but I know I am not myself and I am lost. Can you rescue me ! Can you restore me. Perhaps to factory setting.

Veg !

Veg. Yes, I am turning into a vegetarian. I love eating vege with sea food, fish and egg. I never thought that I will one day be a vegetarian. It has been 2 weeks that I did well, All I have to do now is to maintain it.  I feel better, more healthier, more energy to last comparing to chicken. I have no chicken and hardly any oil in my meal. The place where I work has 3 people including myself who is a vegetarian. I just lost my appetite for chicken and chocolate. Before, I must have Kit Kat everyday but now I naturally forget about Kit Kat. I am turning organic too. Going vegetarian and going organic. My craving for whipped cream and whole milk is just no longer haunting me. These kind of food on me has no longer has a craving on me. But rather green and healthy looking food find a crave on me.